Carmen A. Nicolaou-Goldstein
Occupation: Attorney + Mom of (2) girls
Our mission at the Girls Leadership League is to contribute to more confident and sparkly girls.
What advice would your big girl self-give your teen/tween self about confidence?
You are smart and strong. Don’t let anyone push you down. You don’t have to be popular to belong and the handful of friends you do have will be your friends for life.
In my classes, we teach young girls to create a Friendship Recipe of traits they are looking for in a true friend. What characteristics would be in your friendship recipe?
Loving, generous, understanding, empathetic, reliable, kind, and open minded
We believe strong family values and consistency are important in creating confident kids …
What was one of your favorite family traditions from your childhood? What new traditions have you started with your own family?
I really didn’t have family traditions other than Christmas and Easter (religious holidays). However, at home we have movie and/or game night Fridays or Saturdays (has to be one) and we do questions of the day at dinner.
At the Girls Leadership League, we teach our girls the importance of accepting oneself even when you don’t feel so sparkly. How do you respond when you receive a compliment?
Personally, it makes me uncomfortable to receive compliments. I have no problem giving them, but receiving them makes me shift in my seat. I do not like to be the center of attention.
We believe pursuing a passion is a great way to build confidence for girls. If you had free time to pursue a “passion project” what would it be? (i.e. something outside your regular work and leisure activities like learning to knit, building a piece of furniture, etc.)
An important skill we teach our girls is how to identify how she feels about a situation and ask for what she needs to make it better …
How good are you at communicating what you feel and asking for what you need with others?
I would think I am pretty good at it. Communication is a skill I have to have in my line of work. So I do have a knack for expressing my thoughts, needs, concerns, in a way that is reasonable and sensible.
Social Media is now a fact of life. Social Media … Love it or Love Hating It?
So – so.
What do you do to help balance your digital life and you’re your “real life”? Any tips to share?
Work life, phone stays in bag when I get home until after kids are in bed. Weekends, stays in bag for most of the day. I tend to check e-mails morning and night. If I am in the car and not driving, I tend to go on my phone more often.
When you look out into the world, who do you see as great role models for girls?
Women in leading roles. Women with strong personalities. Women who are activists, such as Malala Yousafzai
We see fear as normal and a sign that you are pushing yourself to grow. Do you have any tips for pushing through fear?
You might as well face them or you’ll stress and lose sleep of it. So put your head down and barrel through. I know that my family will be there to support me if I fall and it makes it that much easier to face those fears.