Featured Female: Holly Rosen Fink
Our mission at the Girls Leadership League is to contribute to more confident and sparkly girls. What advice would your big girl self-give your teen/tween self about confidence?
Self-confidence starts from within. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you, too. If something bothers you, talk about it. Don’t keep it inside. Sharing your stories and perspective will get you through hard times and make you stronger.
In my classes we teach young girls to create a Friendship Recipe of traits they are looking for in a true friend. What characteristics would be in your friendship recipe?
Trust – support – understanding – loyalty – a willingness to make sacrifices for you.
We believe strong family values and consistency are important in creating confident kids . What was one of your favorite family traditions from your childhood? What new traditions have you started with your own family (if applicable)?
My mom made sure we celebrated every holiday together and she made them very special. I actually started the tradition of having Friday night dinners together to observe the Jewish Sabbath. No one goes out and we spend every single Friday night together. We light candles, say blessings over wine and challah and reflect on the week that just passed.
At the Girls Leadership League we teach our girls the importance of accepting oneself even when you don’t feel so sparkly. How do you respond when you receive a compliment? Tell us about this.
I take it in stride, accept the compliment and generally return it. Gratitude is everything.
We believe pursuing a passion is a great way to build confidence for girls. If you had free time to pursue a “passion project” what would it be? (i.e. something outside your regular work and leisure activities. For example, learning to knit or building a piece of furniture)
I would like to pick up piano again. It’s something I have taken lessons in during parts of my life and is a rusty skill that I would love to nurture and improve.
An important skill we teach our girls is how to identify how she feels about a situation and ask for what she needs to make it better . How good are you at communicating what you feel and asking for what you need with others?
Communication is one of my strengths, both verbally and as a writer. Our family is very open – it’s an important facet of our everyday life.
Social Media is now a fact of life . Social Media … Love it or Love Hating It? What do you do to help balance your digital life and you’re your “real life”? Any tips to share?
I have learned to use social media on a more moderate basis than I used to. It’s important not to let it run your life. When we have dinner, I insist that phones are in the middle of the table. When I am out with friends, I put my phone down. Social media is not going anywhere. While it’s important to keep up and stay on top of new tools and platforms, it, like everything else, can wait five minutes.
When you look out into the world, who do you see as great role models for girls?
Hillary Clinton is the ultimate role model for girls everywhere. She is smart, successful, altruistic and works for the common good of people everywhere. She believes that women’s rights are human rights and this is something I have passed onto my daughter.
We see fear as normal and a sign that you are pushing yourself to grow. Do you have any tips for pushing through fear?
Think that this may be your only chance and believe in yourself and make it happen.