Featured Female: Lynn Harris

 Featured Female

Lynn Harris
Age: 48
Brooklyn, NY
Business:  GOLD #comedyforgirls
Kids: Sam (8), Bess (10)

Find out more about GOLD comedy for girls at goldcomedyforgirls.com. You can follow Lynn on Instagram and Facebook.

Our mission at the Girls Leadership League is to contribute to more confident and sparkly girls ….

What advice would your big girl self-give your teen/tween self about confidence?

That thing you think makes you weird is actually the thing that makes you awesome. If you think other people think you’re weird, here’s what they’re really thinking: “I’m boring. Also, jealous.”

In my classes, we teach young girls to create a Friendship Recipe of traits they are looking for in a true friend. What characteristics would be in your friendship recipe?

Respect
loyalty
100% pure LIKE
time apart with other friends, activities
security, comfort
FUN

We believe strong family values and consistency are important in creating confident kids …

What was one of your favorite family traditions from your childhood? What new traditions have you started with your own family?

My dad and I used to play practical jokes on my mom all the time. Rubber mouse in the pasta, jumping out from behind things. We eventually got the feedback that only the two of us found us hilarious. So now my husband and I try to train our children (now 8 and 10) in the (perhaps safer) art of wisecracks instead, teaching them about joke structure, delivery, etc. It helps all of us lighten situations and nip conflict in the bud. For example, when I’m trying to get the kids to do something and no one’s budging I say something like, “Whoever practices piano first is the one that MOMMY LOVES MORE.” 

At the Girls Leadership League, we teach our girls the importance of accepting oneself even when you don’t feel so sparkly. How do you respond when you receive a compliment?

I LOVE compliments. And yet I STILL find ways to diminish them. (“How awesome that you made yourself and your kids matching pussy hats!” “Oh, I’m really not a very good knitter,” etc.) Note to self: quit doing that. Just say “Thank you.”

We believe pursuing a passion is a great way to build confidence for girls. If you had free time to pursue a “passion project” what would it be? (i.e. something outside your regular work and leisure activities like learning to knit, building a piece of furniture, etc.)

Bucket list: learn to play banjo
  
An important skill we teach our girls is how to identify how she feels about a situation and ask for what she needs to make it better …

How good are you at communicating what you feel and asking for what you need with others?

Very good at finding the words to describe how I feel.
NOT good at asking for what I need, unless I am asking my husband to mix me a gimlet. 

Social Media is now a fact of life. Social Media … Love it or Love Hating It?

 LOVE it, but can someone please help me with SnapChat? 

What do you do to help balance your digital life and you’re your “real life”?   Any tips to share?

My tip would be to not necessarily think of “real” and “digital” as opposites. I’m not a different person in different places. The joy I get from blips of connection with friends—wherever that occurs—and the reassurance I feel when engaging with people who share my worldview/rage/etc., for example, are real. They make a difference in my real-life day. I’d just figure out what are ALL the things in your life that either sustain or distract and try to create some sort of balance among them. 

When you look out into the world, who do you see as great role models for girls?

Beyonce
Rachel Bloom
Brujas
Hillary Clinton
Mo’Ne Davis
Lea Delaria
Tammy Duckworth
Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Kamala Harris
Storm Large
Kate McKinnon
Michelle Obama
Sonia Sotomayor
Malala Yousafzai
I’ll stop now, but I could seriously provide a 20-page single-spaced list. 

We see fear as normal and a sign that you are pushing yourself to grow. Do you have any tips for pushing through fear?

My happy place is ice skating. I taught my kids to skate when they were itty bitty. I would stop them from holding onto the boards for dear life by saying, “You should be falling! If you’re not falling, you’re not trying.” (I also told them the boards were made of hot lava.) So, that: if you’re not trying anything you’re afraid of, you’re not really trying anything at all.
In other words, fear is that overbearing friend with terrible timing that you know you can’t live without. Welcome the fear. Give the fear an awkward hug. That’s the best way to be brave.

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